me when my skin is clear: honestly i love natural beauty we must embrace our true selves! 🍃☺️
me with breakouts: if i want to wear makeup i will f***uck natural beauty #teamfake! 👸💅💄💋
me when my skin is clear: honestly i love natural beauty we must embrace our true selves! 🍃☺️
me with breakouts: if i want to wear makeup i will f***uck natural beauty #teamfake! 👸💅💄💋
Anonymous asked:
animelanin answered:
Don’t feel sorry about asking this; it’s honestly such a valid question and something a lot of people struggle with.
I think the best way to handle these feelings is to remove yourself, and by that I don’t necessarily mean give up k-pop. I mean take breaks from it every now and then. The k-pop industry is pretty damn problematic tbh, so if you ever feel like it’s too much to handle, that’s okay. It’ll always be there when you wanna dive back into it.
Remind yourself that their beauty standards are always going to be out of your reach just for the simple fact that your beauty is different. Because colorism is so deeply connected with racism, these standards are incredibly Eurocentric. Most Asian people don’t even fit these standards. So, yeah the “he’s too dark” jokes suck and have major anti-black undertones, but you have to be able to remove yourself from feeling like it’s directed towards you. Colorism is a big issue for all people of color, and it’s something that the Asian community (idk a better way to put it, i’m sorry) kinda just has to deal with on their own the same way black people have to deal with our brand of colorism on our own. So, when it happens, acknowledge it and hold the offender accountable for it, but acknowledge that it comes from a deeper place of self-hatred, as well. Never let it slide, but never let it overwhelm you. Does that make sense? I hope that makes sense.
Personally, my goal has never been to
equilibrate my love for k-pop and my love for myself. My goal has always been to love myself more. I think that’s where a lot of black k-pop fans have trouble coping with the negative parts of the industry. When you are aware of anti-blackness being a part of something you love, you need to love yourself more and mentally prepare yourself for whatever issues that come up by becoming more secure in your own identity. K-pop is one of my interests, but my melanin, culture, and people are always going to be a bigger part of who I am. For example, I may have one specific artist that I really like but they keep saying and doing offensive things even after they’ve been corrected. My thought process is, “Okay, I really liked them, but this makes me too uncomfortable to actually enjoy their art, so I think I need to move on for the sake of my own happiness and mental health.”
I’m sorry this is so long. Hopefully something I said helped a little. But yeah, in conclusion: it all comes down to validating yourself rather than seeking that validation elsewhere (in the k-pop industry). They have their own set of beauty standards but your type of beauty just happens to exist outside of that. Learn to embrace that.
~Peace, Love, and Melanin! <3
When a girl tells me im pretty: Thanks so much :) You are so beautiful. LEts follow eachother on instagram
When a guy tells me im pretty: No one fucking asked
you know it’s fucked up when PRADA using more black girls than givenchy
it’s so annoying how people are fetishizing races
why
like okay you can appreciate them but like these people always expect everyone else to be like a certain person from x group
not all asians are going to be like your oppa or some kawaii ass bitch who’ll dress up in a maid costume and dance for you so stop
and not all black girls are going to be like rihanna or beyonce or some shit
and not all white girls wear Ugg boots or have blonde hair…
Y’all: I’m sick of there being white girls in Kpop mvs!!
*black girls in a Kpop mv*
Y’all: wait no not them tho
wonhonos
